He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.
-Micah 6:8, NIV
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is an online ministry born from my personal experience and a pastoral need.
That need is still there. I see this over and over, again. Just as I am contemplating shutting down the blog, I see a spike in views or get a message from someone who desperately needs pastoral counsel. Then I am reminded that God is still using this blog ministry.
Sadly, I am convinced the Church needs to be reminded to take adultery seriously. It is an oddly controversial stance.
People in the church tend to assume a pastor will always push a miracle narrative of keeping marriages together. I am not such a pastor. A godly stance of taking adultery seriously often dictates divorce.
The fact my stance is so controversial still is an argument to continue blogging. Hurting faithful spouses need to hear this from a pastor. They need to know that God loves them and does not tolerate their abuse.
So, I will continue to blog. The call to continue this ministry has not ended even if the digital world has mostly moved on from blogs.
I am in the middle of a painful divorce. He cheated, he moved out, he filed. Now he is unsure., says he loves and misses me, although he moved 1200 miles away, near his 3rd cheating partner. I don’t know what to do. I never wanted any of this. I am in lots of counseling, leaning toward completing the divorce. All I want is the house. Advice?
He showed he is. Personally, I would accept his decision to defy God and accept the biblical divorce. But it is your choice either way. No pressure. It sounds like classic hoovering by someone fearful of facing his behavioral consequences.
Thank you for still being here. When I feel strong and that I can withstand some hard truths I visit chumplady and that’s where I discovered you. The pain doesn’t just go away. Things at home aren’t the same. Hell I don’t even think I’m the same.
But I’m still capable of love. Capable of trusting. Fully capable of commitment
Just have no idea what will happen at home. It’s sickening.
Thanks for who you are and not being afraid to express it.
God bless be well
Thanks for being here. God bless you for being genuine and a believer. My message has gotten booted out twice so I’ll
Make it short. Every now and then I visit chumplady THATS where I found you a year ago. We had a brief correspondence. Thanks for that. It doesn’t go away. There’s not a magic button or prayer that makes my marriage whole again. It’s avoiding the pain of pulling the plug for me. Feel dumb but I know I’m not. Just have to find my way. Need more direction on the best way