Telling lies about others is as harmful as hitting them with an ax, wounding them with a sword, or shooting them with a sharp arrow.
-Proverbs 25:18, NLT
While Cheaters have no problem cheating, they DO have a problem with people KNOWING they are cheating!
They will go through all sorts of lengths to throw people off the scent of their sinful behaviors. Honestly, I believe they may even believe the lies that they tell about the marriage.
These lies take the form of character attacks of the faithful spouse. They have to explain the obvious marriage crisis, and they have no intention of owning how they blew it up.
As I have written or said elsewhere, one of life’s hardest lessons to learn is that we only control ourselves. We don’t control what other people say. That includes our spouse (or ex).
This is a painful lesson to learn during the discard phase. Cheaters say all sort of cruel things about us to our friends and family.
The damage is real.
Some relationships are ended as “friends” and family choose to believe the Cheater and side against the faithful spouse. These are more losses among many in these situations.
Sadly, some will even stick to their stance after learning about the cheating. They don’t want to admit that they were played.
The lies are painful and costly. Whether or not the Cheater believes them matters not. They cause harm beyond the cheating that can reverberate for a lifetime! It is truly wicked propaganda.
