You do not have to take the lecture from the morally bankrupt Cheater.
Walk away.
Hang up the phone.
End the session.
A responsible pastor would do this for you in a session. Minimally, the pastor would correct the Cheater. However, you do not have to be passive in these situations.
You have agency!
If your Cheater is fixated on blaming you, you have the ability to walk away or otherwise distance yourself from such abuse. You do not have to just sit there and take it.
If you want, you can even speak up about it and object. However, I doubt that will bring about success. A cheater engaging in this behavior is already telling you he or she is beyond correcting. They have hardened their heart.
So, it is probably best to walk away or otherwise get distance from your cheater. You don’t need their half-truths–aka lies–filling your head and tearing you down even more.
We had a short attempt at reconciliation counseling.
Our therapist was very skillful and would stop my XW from blaming me for her choices. This was what I needed, because one on one she was unrelenting in blaming me. XW cut the sessions short, afterwhich the therapist told me to get her out of my life. I just let the lawyers do the talking.
Thanks for sharing! It is good to have a reminder that some therapists actually do their job and aren’t taken in by cheaters. Glad you had one of those!